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What Mediation Looks Like

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ORIENTATION TO MEDIATION

- SET AN AGENDA

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UNDERSTAND THE INTERESTS OF BOTH PARTIES

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GENERATE OPTIONS

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ASSESS THE OPTIONS AND AGREE ON A PATH FORWARD

ORIENTATION TO MEDIATION - SET AN AGENDA

What are you hoping to achieve? Preparing an agenda sets clear expectations about what issues need to be addressed. If we are all on the same page, it is easier to stay focused, and keep emotions under control. 

UNDERSTAND THE INTERESTS OF BOTH PARTIES

To help you, I need to understand not only what you want, but why you want it. While "splitting the difference" can be a tool, what if we were able to work out a solution that met both parties' needs?

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GENERATE OPTIONS

How can we solve the problem? You might have an idea, but your ex-partner has a different one. We will work together to generate more than two options. Brainstorming allows room to create ideas that build on each other.

ASSESS THE OPTIONS AND AGREE ON A PATH FORWARD

In step three we generated ideas without evaluating them. Now we work out the pros and cons of the different ideas, and consider how we can make them work. I focus on achieving practical and fair solutions.